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Questions about re-marriage?

Submitted: 3/15/2007
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Question: If two born-again Christians are married and one backslides and divorces the other, and the innocent party waits four or five years praying that the backsliden party will resume the marriage again. How long should the innocent party wait? Which scripture is applicable, the Matthew scripture about being bound as long as you live or the Corinthian scripture saying a brother or sister is not bound anymore if a unbeliever leaves? 2. Would the backslider be in the same category as a unbeliever? 3. Would that free the innocent party? 4. Can the innocent party remarry. 5. Are backsliders and unbeilvers the same? 6. Is a backslider more accountable than a person who never believed? God bless.

Answer: The first point we would like to make is that very few divorces have an 'innocent party.' When a marriage breaks up, there are usually two people who have both made their share of mistakes. This does not mean both are equally responsible for the break-up, only that both have contributed to some degree. This may mean that the question you are asking should not be 'Can I get married?' but instead 'Should I get married?' Paul cautioned that those who remarry will have 'trouble in the flesh' (1 Corinthians 7:28). We suggest that you discuss any issues concerning remarriage with your spiritual leaders and focus particularly on any areas in your life that may have contributed to the break up of your first marriage. If these issues are not resolved, they will only resurface in the next relationship.

As for those who fall away after having been born again, they are not only guilty of committing sin, they are also guilty of rejecting the only hope of salvation. The only thing they have to look forward to is a fearful expectation of judgment and fiery indignation (Hebrews 10:27).